In this season finale, we’re delving deep into the world of habits and how they can bring ease into your business, especially if you’re an introverted entrepreneur or anyone with unique energy needs.
Instead of spouting a list of habits at you, I explore the concepts behind the habits, so that you can be empowered to choose the practices that work for you and your unique introverted self. These concepts come from my training in yoga, Ayurveda, life coaching, online business and my studies on introversion and human design.
You’ll learn deeper concepts behind the habits & strategies so that you’ll not only feel relief, but also more like your true self – yes, in your business!
I also give you self-coaching questions that you can use to identify stressful areas in your business and create true-to-you strategies to improve them.
Ultimately, this episode is about you finding YOUR way of working and creating the EXPERIENCE that you want to have in your business.
This is also the season finale for Empowered Introvert, as I embark on my annual trip to Brazil soon.
I think this is my favorite episode of the season. I hope you love it!
Excerpts from the Episode
“True success that comes from being your TRUE self as the core of your business… It’s going to feel so good.”
“Building your business is a process of self-discovery and experimentation.”
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Create ease & increase capacity in your online business with systems, processes & human-centered work flows. I help you design the next level of your business the way that fits YOU best.
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Hello. Oh, my beautiful introvert. Friend. And intrepreneur welcome to episode number 23, where we're going to talk about habits. For ease. In your business for intrepreneurs. And if you're also a projector or anyone that has a variable energy flow, maybe you have some mental health considerations, a lot of anxiety or some physical health considerations. That mean that you don't show up in your business the way it looks like other people do and the way other people recommend, because you're different. Your unconventional. And that is totally okay. I want to really normalize that. You can have a successful business. That works for you. And that's what this podcast episode is really based on. So if you're in a point in your business where you're feeling like there's just always too much to do, you can never get it done. You're feeling overwhelmed and you're, you've been here long enough for you. Like, oh my gosh, this isn't changing. I'm trying all of these things, but I'm kind of stuck here. And I'm doing all the things that people say to do, but it's not working. For me. Or also you just don't like doing business that way you don't like hustling or being on social media, 24 7, right. So, what we're really going to look at today is not so much specific habits that to do, but the concepts underlying the habits. So that you can then choose from the millions of options for how to have strategies and self care to find what fits you based on your needs, your unique energy. And really my goal is for you to not just feel relief in your business, but for you to come back to yourself for you to feel like your true self at the core of your business, because success that comes from there. It's going to feel so good. Versus success that comes from hustling and forcing other people's strategies won't feel authentic or, or sustainable. And so often you'll just get to a place where you're ready to throw the towel in. I see this all the time. I have been here myself. And let us help you. And I want to help you today to really instead of going down that path to burn out and throwing in the towel of actually low. Being able to use the discomfort and the problems in your business to help you find your way, your path to your true self. Your way of working. Because I, you know, I know in business we're focused on the results it's like, especially in the coaching world. There's so much around numbers and whether that is number of clients or income numbers. And it really. I think it really detracts from the whole purpose of courts we need to eat. And of course we want to be financially abundant. But oftentimes in order to do that, we're sacrificing. Right now we're making decisions that create pressure and hustle. And that ultimately are not an experience we want to have. So I want you to create the experience that you want. Independent of the results that you're getting. And of course. Of course, you want to get results from your business? Cause, cause why, why do it in the end you do need to survive. But if you can have the experience that you want. And have results. Amazing so much better. You know, it's kind of like like you're navigating a big city. Might be New York. It might be San Paulo and you're asking people how the heck to I get to the museum. And. Everyone will have a different way, depending on where they're at. If you're, if they're live, they live in the west side. If they live in the north side, they're going to tell you a different path. They are all valid. They all work for certain people, but your way, you're going to have to find. On E. Not on your own, but you're the one who will know. Right. You will know. I prefer going through the park or I prefer going downtown and really building her business is a lot of that. It's like finding your way, asking for advice, but ultimately, always coming back to yourself. Also this episode is going to be the season finale of season two, introverts at work. As I am going on travels and maintaining the podcast, although I absolutely love it. It does not feel in alignment with some of the experience that I want to have while I'm traveling. And that doesn't mean that I won't pop in maybe with a special episode. I'm not sure. And also I am looking forward to having time to regroup, to digest where the season has gone. I've really been exploring introverts at work, in different capacities and moving into entrepreneurship. And I am finding my way here too. And it's important for me in my process. To have time to reflect without having added pressure to be producing too much. So. I am giving myself the gift of a break. And we'll see when I come back, I'll be gone for over a month. So that puts us into a November. And so stay tuned. For what is to come. Some great as we move into the episode. I do want you to know that if you need more support to figure out your habits, your systems, your processes. And put things into place. Right now I have a package called systems for ease. That is all about doing the deep downloading analysis and figuring out a plan for you to. Create habits and systems and processes in your business that fit. You, and that will guide you through the next six months of your business. So that will give you clarity and support and really help you be in alignment with the experience you want to have and the truth of who you are in your business. So you can find more about that. In the show notes or on my website. Heidi, Jen, dell.com forward slash ease. Habits for ease in your business as an intrepreneur. I am pulling this information based on my education and experience. I where it is a combination of yoga, yoga. Has a deep, deep roots in our roots, but it's concerned with its. It's a practice. It's a philosophy of thousands of years old concern with well being and how to help you feel at peace and in connection. And I are Veda. Is the sister science to yoga, which puts that into practice in terms of all kinds of habits. And ways of understanding. Self care nutrition. And even medicine. I also bring in life coaching, which I get through the life coach school, which is very like mind and emotion based as well as tapping, which is very much about the nervous system. Yoga. Tons about the nervous system. And then I've got my own studies on introversion and human design. And my experience as a business owner for the past 20 years and working with lots of business owners, as colleagues, as clients. As me being the client. I have seen, I have seen all kinds of businesses, especially online ones from, you know, 20 making 20 bucks a month to making 200,000 and more a month.Heidi:
Now let's look at the concepts behind habits for ease. The first is reducing stimulation. Now stimulation is any kind of input that comes into your body through your senses, your mind. And it might be the quantity of information. It might be the number of meetings, the number of offers that you're selling. All of this, it creates more to think about more, to do more, to transition and care for and keep in your brain or to organize. And that leads to a lot of tasks switching. So moving from task to task. That creates stimulation. As opposed to having blocks of focus time, where you are pinpointed, widely focused on getting something done. Also distractions in the environment. They create stimulation. And I Aveda. Views all of this in terms of what's called the Vata energy and its its characteristics are movement. And overwhelm and anxiety. I like to call it hurricane in the brain. So finding ways to reduce and simplify. Help to Reduce the amount of stimulation that your nervous system receives and needs to process. And that stimulation, it creates often, most times some form of stress. So less stimulation, less stress. The next concept is mindset care. Now, I don't know about you, but I really never learned any processes to look at my thoughts and the way that I'm talking with myself and what that's creating for me. I did learn a little bit about meditation as a kid, but I never really practiced at. So and mindset care, it's really having awareness of your thoughts. And the quality of them and. And how you relate to your thoughts and to yourself. So the more kind and understanding you are the less stress you're going to create. The more support you are going to feel. Emotions like urgency and pressure a lot often time become from the way that you are thinking. Which is very much under your control. It can be habitual, but you can change it. Right. So. Mindset care might look like. In the morning before you start your work. You take a moment to observe the thoughts that you have, write them down. And the thoughts that you ha you have, it's just that ongoing chatter in your brain. And notice, are they creating stress? Are they creating pressure or urgency? Shame. And having tools to work through them. Not, not like pretending they're not there, but to work through, to process and transform so that you are moving into a mindset of greater empowerment, greater love. This is a lot of what I do in my one-on-one coaching. The next concept is really paying attention to your nervous system, nervous system of care. You might think about this as stress management. So your nervous system. It will respond to stimulus and it's either, you know, stressed out well. Balance say balance is somewhere in the middle. If you think about an Oreo cookie, the balance is that lovely cream middle. And then there's an unbalanced state on the top, which is the kind of hyper. Energized stress. And then that bottom cookie layer is the low energy stress. Depression lethargy. Afton times as a sensitive person. You're thinking more about that energized stress. You know, like the anxiety and the panic. So you can feel more resilient. When you're nourishing your nervous system and there are yoga practices. Tapping. Herbs food. Like there's all kinds of habits that you can use to do this. But most importantly, it's like thinking about. How to use these habits. In your daily flow. Like before you go to bed, when you work up and wake up in the morning. Before you open your email. Right. Having some way to calm your nervous system. Before or after stressful experiences. Like a meeting. So you have an important conversation. Happening, having tools ready, having that awareness and time to nourish your nervous system. Maybe it's just one minute. Before. And then afterwards to process and calm down your nervous system. When you do this, that stressful moment, it is book ended in ways that help you ease back into a more baseline, a more easeful state. And then thinking about transitions when you move from one activity to another. That is such a perfect moment for you too. Connect with your nervous system. I E. Your stress levels. And pull in a habit. Might be as simple as three. Deep breaths into the belly. Or laying on the ground for a couple of minutes. You want to identify those places in your day, in your workflow, where you feel your stress spike. And resourced yourself with habits that will help to calm your nervous system and connect with your source. Similarly energy care or energy management. So often. In our culture, we have this idea. We should be on all the time. Right. It's crazy. It's like, there's this level of productivity. Like you're only productive if you're reaching for the 11, for example. And oh my gosh, like that, like doesn't really work for anybody. But especially for those of us who have lower energy resources or have this, the need to retreat often, like that is just going to blow us out. Instead. Think about your energy as a sign wave. There is an ebb and flow and that the more that you can keep a balance to the ebb and flow. Then the more you're going to feel. At ease. Right. Balancing effort. With ease. This might look like having, you know, having your client calls. You do three weeks of every week, you have your client calls. And then on that fourth week of the month, You don't do client calls. In fact, you, maybe you schedule some catch-up work, admin work, something that requires less. Energy from you, maybe you don't schedule anything there at all. I know. Crazy. And with your energy management, it's important to consider, of course, what, what else is happening in your life? COVID really drove this home for us. When you have a lot of stress happening in one area of your life. Ideally you need to help adapt the other areas of your life so that you can help to keep your energy. Keep yourself from burning out and sometimes you need more rest than other times. The seasons are another place where you can sync your energy with the qualities of the seasons. Talk a lot about this in Irita. But you can choose different activities based on whether it's summertime and you're feeling. More energized and expansive versus winter time where you're more introverted. And naturally spending more time inside. When you sync your activities that way. You don't have to push against. The energy that's happening around you, you can just kind of get on and write it and allow yourself to, to be held in that flow of the seasons. And most importantly, when it comes to energy management, It's about knowing your own needs. You know, if you are not one of those people who is like, Like has a huge energy resources. And you know, we kind of build our society around that expectation. Then it's really, really important for you to engage in a loving, compassionate self-study. To discover where your energy flows and when you would benefit form a more rest, more quiet, more retreat. And then allow yourself that begin to build it into your. Like your schedule, the way that you manage your time and from a place of support and acceptance. And letting go of the shame because. Typically we have w comments in our head. We have those social pressures about being productive. That then creates shame for us. So that's one of those things in the mindset area that you can give some attention to. And when you let that go. You just, sometimes it's a practice sometimes it's, you know, there's, there's a, there's a relationship there that you have to manage for over time. But when you can move more into respecting your energy and building your business around it. Then it's going to feel more useful. A hundred percent. The next concept for. More easeful habits or habits for more ease. In your business. Is to. Approach. Growth in eight gentle. Expansive and curious way. To build in reflection into your work process. This is so important. For you to really reflect and observe. How your businesses feeling, what is working. For you on, on different levels, on an energy level, on a client level, on a financial level. And to really inform your decisions from your experience that you're having. And use the, the, the successes. And especially using the discomforts or the quote unquote failures. To learn and extract. Just one arch tooth. Things items that you can experiment on, continue to try, but modify in a different way. And approaching this from really a place of you know, you're evaluating, but it's from a place of totally accepting, like accepting the experience versus evaluating it so you can fix it. You know, so often. We just want to get to the result. We have radar on an urgent mission to make money. And so when we see something's not working, that we think that we're doing it wrong, we feel bad about it. We see everyone else doing it differently and whatnot, and it just creates a lot of drama. That you can drastically reduce by moving into acceptance. Yeah. Then the last concept that I want to share today. Is the, to create more ease. Is to have clarity on your vision, mission, and values. For yourself. And your business. No, you are the foundation of your business. It's an extension of who you are. So, when you are clear on what your values are, like you value kindness, you value. Authenticity you've, you know, you value learning. And. Writing it down. That will help you. No. Hello. Inform your decisions. So the same is true for your mission. It's like, who do you serve? How do you serve them? Why do you serve them? What is the impact? That you hope to create that you are working towards. Then what is the vision vision? What is the vision that you are creating? What is it that you would love to see that you are this like life personal life, business, life. And the impact that your business has, you know, think big here. When you have these three pieces. They make and you base them. On what we've just talked about. These concepts for knowing yourself, your energy, your mindset. And when the, when FA. Values mission and vision. Really truly reflect who you are. And it might take some time to figure out what they are. They don't need to be perfect. Then you can use them to make decisions, to quote unquote justify. Maybe some of the crazy ways that you're doing business, like taking a week off every, every month or, you know, a Friday off every week, whatever it is. Because that reflects your values. It reflects your vision for what work can be. So those are the concepts. We've got reducing stimulation. Mindset care, nervous system care. Energy care and management. Gentle growth and clear values, mission and vision vision. So from here. These concepts. They'll help you choose your habits, the systems and the processes. That you build into your business. And think about this in a holistic way. It's not just like. The That you're using slack for your communication with your clients. But how you want slack to integrate into the rest of your life. Like, do you wake up in the morning, roll out of bed and check your slack? No, do not do that. You know, you might have fixed times you're on slack from nine to 12 every day. Boom. That's it. And. Feel free to experiment, you know, don't sometimes we think that we're in that fixing mine, we think it has to be a certain way. And then we bring in that rigid rigidity, we create pressure and then w we don't follow through or fall through in perfectly, and we feel shame. And then we go right back into our old negative feedback loops. Building your business is a process of self discovery of experimentation. Finding the habits that work for you. Are, you know, it's an ongoing experiment. And so often. I don't want to like overly plug coaching here, but I know for me, That I get so overwhelmed. My system gets overwhelmed that when I have some support, when I have a coach. When I have a mastermind or, you know, some other place where I am regularly showing up and reflecting and being held accountable. That it is, it just creates strength and a container for me to do this kind of work. And in a way that is more efficient and feels just more connected and lovely. So putting it into practice, what does it look like? And I'll just share one potential example here. So one thing that I hear a lot of people like can be. Complain about. It has being on social media. No posting on social media. We hear that we're supposed to be on there every day. I had recently a coach say that. That. With this economy, you need to be showing out multiple times a day. And you know what I think about that? I was like, hell. No. I, if I have to, no, that's just not happening, but like, We hear this and you might be doing this where you think, okay, I need to be on there every day. I need to do video. I need to be, you know, consistency is king. And then you feel pressure. You feel stress and you don't follow through, you don't do that. Right. So you feel an adequate. And then you think that then you blame yourself. You think that, oh, like I'm not getting as much response as they should. There you go. But right into some crazy negative thinking. But even if you do do it, like you end up pushing. Beyond your natural energy flow. And that not only does it. It depletes you, but it feels. In authentic. Other people since that. And then it ends up not really working. Plus as the it's not a sus like as the basis for creating clients in your business, it's not really sustainable. So eventually you're going to, it's just going to come to a stop at some point. But the whole experience, like you ended up using it against yourself and. You feel limited, you feel exhausted and it erodes your relationship with yourself. Yeah, so. We have a lot of places in our business where we do that. So what do you do. I want to give you some questions to help you. On your journey to more easeful habits. The first thing to do. Is to take a piece of paper and just real quickly write out all the areas where you feel stressed in your business, right? This might be social media. It might be you're responding to clients. It might be working with a certain kind of client. It might be a new offer, whatever listed out, list them all out. And then pull out your top three. With those with each one of those, I want you to grab a new piece of paper and write. Right at the top, you know, social media being consistent on social media, whatever it is. And then ask yourself. Why am I doing it this way? I want you to notice where this comes from, is it coming from because you paid a bunch of money to somebody and they told you that this is the way that they did it, is it because you see it working for other people? You know, why are you doing it that way? The next question. It's what is my relationship with myself around this? You know, am I pushing myself? Am I being critical. Am I being supportive and loving and gentle, or my shaming myself. Yeah. Notice the quality of your relationship, the thoughts and the feelings. Then the next question. Is if I allowed myself to do it the way that I truly want. What would it look like? And I want you to spend time with this because our initial reaction will most likely be to tell it to go fuck itself. Right? Like fuck social media. But. Oftentimes. It's not all bad. Like we're moving from one end of the spectrum of the other. So. Ask yourself, you know, how would, how would I, if I did it the way I actually want, what would it look like? Let yourself, like, kind of get the rage out. And then ask how else. How else could I do it? How else would I do it and love it. Right. How else, how else hell else, ask yourself how else? Over and over and over. Until you get. Complete you feel complete. And then the last question is if I showed up. That way. The way that you allow yourself to show up. What would the impact be? Impact on your relationship with yourself? With your business with your clients. With your finances. Impact with your community. Okay. All right. My friends. This was an awesome episode. I'm really glad to end the season on this note. I hope that you take this and. Spend some time, come back to it, take some notes and really integrate it to find that relief, to find your way of doing things. And know that I am here. To help. Either with systems for ease. We have one-on-one coaching. You have any questions you just want to let me know. What your experience is like, you can find me. On social media. Oh, my website. I'd love to hear from you, especially why while I am on my, my travels and in between seasons. So. Thank you so much for tuning in for being here in season two of the empowered introvert. And I wish you an amazing October and I look forward to connecting in the future. So take care of friends and I will see you next time.